Couples CounsellingI offer an open minded and honest approach to guiding couples in relationship.
I encourage a fresh awareness of tolerance and kindness where it might have become lost. The playwright Arthur Miler wrote: "Living together is the most difficult thing there is because it is about constant tolerance and forgiveness".
In my experience saving a relationship is more effective and has more change of success, if the conflicts are identified early on.
GPs are often the people who will hear about the first signs of problems and can pick them up, but they cannot necessarily offer the specific help which is required.
Couples will tend to find it very hard to admit they need to talk to a counsellor, unless they have reached crisis point - and then it may be too late.
This is such a painful and difficult stage and so it takes far more effort and willing for a couple to patch the relationship together again .
I encounter a good deal of frustration and anger at the outset of counselling - knots which seem almost impossible to unravel at this stage.
Yet with the unfolding process of counselling sessions, it is extraordinary how 2 people can find that they get to know each other surprisingly better, and ultimately more deeply than ever before.
Couples are often not aware of the things they do not talk to each other about.
This may be about little or big things that have been on their minds but kept to themselves, or only discussed with friends.
In the presence of a counsellor and mediator, it is a space where it is acceptable to be more open and frank.